Friday, February 12, 2010

Still thoughtful on Friday....

Well, obviously I can only speak for myself. But, I wonder sometimes if the man doesn't love more deeply than a woman.

We are emotional creatures, we women. But I think that we are pulled in so many different directions all at the same time that it's hard to give one person their due.

I feel I love my children more deeply than my husband does. Not because he's a bad person or doesn't love them enough, but because I carried them in my womb, and I would do anything, ANYTHING for them. There's a very strong emotional attachment there, something I really have no control over. But I often wonder if I feel that same way for my husband. Would I die for him? I would have to of course, first take into consideration my children. I couldn't do that to them--leave them to this world without my presence (although some days I think they'd be better off without my inept mothering skills).

I very much believe my husband would sacrifice anything for me though. His love runs deep and strong and true.

My love for him is also deep and strong and true. I wouldn't ever do anything to knowingly hurt him.

I think there's still, after all these years of marriage, a small part of me that holds myself back from him. You know, that little part way back in the subconscious that doesn't want to be hurt, or laughed at, or rejected, and I think it stops me from giving love more completely.

There's something for me to strive to be BETTER at.

A mother's love is surely different than a lover's love, so maybe the comparison is flawed.

Regardless, I hope you all have a lovely Valentines weekend, and give all those you love a little extra lovin'! I plan to.


Kristina P. said...

These are deep thoughts! Not having children, and only having my husband, I would absolutely die for him.

Have a good weekend!

~The Robin's Nest~ said...

I think it's a question that can only be answered personally. There are no wrong answers. When I first married my husband I felt he loved me more then I loved him. Now that we have been together over 20 something years I feel my love is deeper for him. With that said I must also say that I know he is crazy about me.
My kids are older now...I love them and would die for them in a second (then again I would die for anyone)My kids and I are very close... But my bond and love for my husband is a bit stronger then that for my kids. I know that my kids will move away and have their own lives with their spouses. It won't be long when it will just be me and my husband living alone. The great thing about our realationship is not only do we love each other but we like each other alot!
It has been very healthy for our kids to see our love-they love teasing us about it and bragging to their friends about their kissy face parents.

Sorry about the book...Your post yesterday really made me think! Thanks~

Happy Valentines Day Mikki~♥

Laura said...

Happy Valentine's weekend, Mikki!

The Garden of Egan said...

Interesting thought! Now I'm thinking.
My love is different for my spouse than my kids, but it's still very intense.
We are kinda reinventing our relationship now, kids are gone as of a few months ago. We were married less than a year when we had baby #1. Now 31 years later...we look at each other and we wonder if we're bored or so dang happy we have some free time.

You made me think.....and dang I was going to go take a nap.

Cherie said...

It is interesting how feelings change and grow.

Hope you have a wonderful Valentine's Day!